I do not think that he engineered it all. I do think its played out that way. Here is my opinion and how I come to it. This is a story -- - plenty will disagree that this is what happened. It will be long - - - you are obviously free to not give a rats about what I heard or think and skip the whole thing!
I get information generally from 3 UR connected sources. These folks are higher up the UR food chain than I (which ain't saying much since I am nobody). Two of them are probably one source combined in that they know each other and the higher yet person they each know and get info from is the same person. It is fair to say these two are not big Queally guys and neither is their higher up guy. The third is unrelated to those two and his higher up yet connection is different. They share with me because we are friends and Spider supporters. On this particular topic I also have a Delaware source. That source is actually very much higher than my direct UR sources. He tells me things about what he hears as well. Things about what Rocco wants and what Delaware must commit to because they are Rocco hot buttons etc. What he shares can only be used to see if it fits with the story I hear from the UR sources or are there discrepancies somewhere etc.
Here is how I think its all come down , based on all I have heard (none of ot obviously from Danny, Gill, Crutcher etc.). I am filling in at some points with opinion and I am sure some details are wrong/missing but I do believe this is the jist of what occurred
A good while ago (as in not days, weeks or even months ago) Danny approached admin with a list of things he felt he needed. Admin was somewhat surprised by list, but more out of a lack of knowledge about what top level FSC programs have. At that point they said they needed to look at it etc. There was no animosity either way. Danny likely thought what he needed to do was educate the key folks some more about what top programs have and why they needed them but believed admin was committed but didn't necessarily understand what that meant.
Discussions continued over time with Danny pushing for what he wanted and as he did admin came to believe that Danny was "cherry picking" a bit - - that is, he was pointing to programs A, B and C and saying they have this (e.g. higher asst salaries) and then Programs D and E have this other thing (e.g. state of art weight/locker room) etc. etc. but that Danny's insistence that he had to have it all was overreaching. Danny likely thought he was negotiating, not truly expecting or demanding everything. To this point I think still no ill-will either way.
Admin comes back and does some cherry picking of their own, pointing to schools 1,2 and 3 that don't have this and schools 4 and 5 that don't have that and implying - - you don't need any of that stuff to be successful. They too probably thought they were negotiating and didn't intend to give nothing. The debate to this point was about "what does a Top level FSC team really need " not whether UR would commit to do whatever that was.
At that point, had it stopped there I think things would have been fine eventually as there was plenty of middle ground. Several things then seemingly happened that got the train off the tracks. Admin cited that one thing we did have already was a really high head coach's salary. How this was said and what was implied etc. is highly unclear, but Danny took a little (and maybe more) umbrage - - feeling his performance had earned that and it shouldn't be used against him. The next thing that happened is where things crash and burn. Someone tells Danny or Danny thinks he hears that it really doesn't matter what other Top level FSC programs have because UR doesn't have the money to do any of those things. This starts the Vision/commitment concerns. But also pisses Danny off because its clear (to him) we can afford it if we want to. He raises the commitment concern - - hey are we really committed to top flight FSC football. The admin says of course we are - - just keep doing what you are doing, its great. Danny thinks (and says) that's not so easy as you think - - are you really not committed to doing what it takes. A little bit of a pissing match ensues Admin - - Yes we are. Danny - - no your not!
Danny sort of doubles down, pushing his concerns and also citing what he believes are commitments already made and not delivered and strongly stating his long term concern over vision and commitment. Admin is now getting annoyed but still clearly wants to keep him. Danny refuses contract talks that don't also include resolution of other issues. Admin starting to get very annoyed and feeling like Danny is overstepping his bounds. Large ego's (on both sides) are now implicated because its shaping up as a winner/loser. Admin again says we can't afford it. Danny says - - so you aren't committed to Top Level FSC. Admin doesn't like Danny characterization of that and a number of things at this point. Danny is now fully concerned and pissed off. Admin expressed lack of money concern leads to comments from Danny about how come we can't afford any of this football stuff but Lax gets whatever they want! He cites that Lax has clear vision - - Top level program that competes for NCAA championship and they get whatever they need in pursuit of that. Lax benefactors are immediately inflamed. I will guess for multiple reasons - - - (1) hey just leave us out of your problems; (2) they didn't like being the villains before and sure don't want to be portrayed that way again and (3) if there are money concerns, they don't want to be losing anything they could or might get to football - - i.e. they don't want to be competing with football for resources. Admin is also inflamed that football coach is overstepping bounds and bringing up sore subject.
At some point both parties say - - you know there are other fish in the sea. who says it first, who the hell knows, but everyone is pissed off. Lax guy who hadn't been too involved now "advises" admin they need to get a hold of this situation and that they should call Danny's bluff (and put him in his place in some versions of the story) with a take it or leave it big contract offer but denial of most other things. His motivations for recommendation not entirely clear but LAX best interests almost certainly part of it - - to some no matter what the cost to other programs. That path is followed. Danny not bluffing (and not interested perhaps in being put in his place wherever that is) and flat out refuses the deal.
Some believe Danny is still negotiating. I do not. Some believe there are forces at work on UR side to save the day. I do not.
To specifically address the notion that Queally orchestrated this - - here is my view. He was a late entry to the dance. A lot of ground had been covered (or lost) before he got directly involved. He didn't even interject himself. Danny mentioned LAX - - no doubt because LAX's treatment is something which in fact really sticks in his craw. That brought Lax man in. Once he is in - - he is in charge because that's how he wants it. So from that point forward he's calling the shots and he's pissed off about the negative connotations around Lax (and maybe other things). This might very well (probably even by the sounds of things) have ended up here without his direct involvement at all however, because things hadn't gone very well up this point and everyone was already pissed off at one another.
Now, he's a smart guy and one who knows how to play the back room and board politics really well. I also believe he certainly is a strong UR supporter beyond the lax program as well. If he sees this now as a disaster about to happen (for both the school and/or football and/or himself and/or Lax) , it is very possible he changes his course and I hope that happens. He may have thought the course of action he advised was the wisest way to get past this with the least damage especially if Danny had accepted (as Q might have really believed he would) but now sees we are instead headed toward the iceberg and is working furiously to turn the ship before the crash.
As a last comment for what its worth, I do hear that UR may not have given up as much as many on this board (including me) have.